We have thankfully learnt a lot in the last 20 years or so.   If relationships still appear to be not working it is because like everything the information and knowledge is slow to seep into the average family home.

At The Gottman Relationship Institute in the USA they have been conducting research for the past 35 years into what happy marriages have in common.  Dr. John Gottman published this work in his book "The Seven Principals of Making Marriage Work".  I strongly suggest that if you want a better marriage or relationship you really need to read it.  It is the basis of the coaching work I do with couples.  For the very first time relationship coaches and therapists have a clear way of analysing exactly what the problems are in their client's relationships.
 

What's great about the Gottman Relationship Therapy is that it teaches you the specific skills and strategies that you both need to improve your relationship.   It doesn't necessarily solve all of your problems because what Gottman's research discovered is that 69% of the issues couples fight over are perpetual and unsolvable.   It's weird to get your head around that isn't it?   Two thirds of relationship problems are unsolvable!   When they first interviewed couples they were fighting about them and then 5 years later these couples still had the same problems.   So what does that teach us?   It appears that it's not the problems in relationships that predict divorce.  You can have problems and still stay happily married together.  Maybe he's never going to pick up his dirty sox?   Maybe she is never going to stop talking for hours on the phone?  What was common in all the 'Masters of Relationship', as Dr Gottman calls the long time happily married couples, was that they were good friends, that they turned towards each others bids for time and attention, that they had a set of relationship skills that enabled them to navigate through anything that life through at them!   These skills can be taught, very easily, and they can make all the difference in your life.

At the Gottman Relationship Institute they can predict with 96% accuracy by doing the Assessment I talked about earlier, which couples would divorce and which wouldn't!  Even if your relationship isn't in bad shape, wouldn't it be great to know how you are going and how you could do better.




GETTING AN UNBIASED PERSPECTIVE

The beauty and power of Relationship Coaching comes from having someone else to look with unbiased eyes at what is really going on between the two of you and guiding you each in how to use different strategies and skills to relate to each other.  It is also important that each of you take responsibility for your own personal issues.  When we take responsibility and deal with our own stuff and stop blaming 'the relationship' or each other then real progress can be made.

Call Reea today and learn how to make your relationship a success

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